Mental Model Dōjō Community Forum
February 21, 2024 Session (free)
- Session A: Feb 21 (Wed) 08:00 SGT, Feb 20 (Tue) 19:00 US EST, 18:00 CST, 16:00 PST
- Session B: Feb 21 (Wed) 19:00 SGT, 15:00 DXB, 12:00 CET, 11:00 GMT
Featured Topic
Instructing to Coaching: How to Shift Your Leadership Style
Synopsis
Letting go of command and control is really hard, isn’t it? I’m a professional coach and I’m not immune. If I recall my last dozen or so conversations, although none were forceful or directive in tone, at least a couple were “instructing” in style.
If I replay those conversations in my mind, I could see that the same conversation could have been done differently in many ways, in various delegating, facilitative, empowering and coaching styles. My impatience pulled me down.
Telling people what to do, i.e. instructing leadership, tends to get the job done. So we rely on it a lot. But let me drop a bomb here: it’s a polite form of command and control. We’re still in the headspace of expecting people to act and behave as we want them to.
Real delegation and empowerment involves giving up that narrow expectation. It takes getting used to letting people do things their way, bringing back unexpected results, watching them fail to learn. It requires deep trust and surrender of control. It’s seriously uncomfortable!
Nonetheless, coaching leadership, and synonymously facilitative leadership and servant leadership is rewarding. And in my opinion it’s a developable skill and capability. So if you want it you can have it.
The big question is, how? It’s not easy and I don’t think one can be just taught how to become a coaching leader, because it’s a personal transformation journey.
So let’s discuss. On February 21 Wednesday (20th Tuesday for folks in the Americas), I’ll set up a space where we will put veteran coaches from our community with leader participants into breakout rooms for small group discussions. Leaders, in confidence ask anything, share anything with our coaches, and seek insights and inspirations.
There will be no session recordings this time (for confidentiality) and no lecture notes (I can’t “instruct” how to make you a coaching leader 😎) that I will share later. So please join live if you’d be interested.
– Coach Takeshi
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